Kathi Patterson February 9, 1950 - December 9, 2020

Kathi was a loving and kind soul whose main goal in life was to help and heal others. She was born in Waterloo, Iowa in 1950, to Audrey Jean and William Patterson, grew up in Jefferson, and became the oldest of seven brothers and sisters.

Kathi attended Lincoln High School in Des Moines and later graduated with honors from the University of Iowa’s Comparative Literature and Cinema Studies programs. She continued her scholarly pursuits when she moved to New York City in the early 1980s, where she also worked in the film industry as a festival organizer.

It was at a film conference where she met her future husband, Eric Monder. She taught English and media studies in several New York schools before she and Eric moved to Kansas, where she continued teaching while also working on two house renovation projects and became a Field Representative for the Census Bureau.

Finally, she and Eric moved to North Carolina to take care of Eric’s parents. Her last position was as a Census Bureau Supervisor. When that work ended, she began writing a book about one of her favorite topics, the lost world of Atlantis. She was also proud to be an Ordained Minister at the Universal Life Ministries.

Kathi was very close to her late grandparents, Pat and Golda Patterson. Her parents, step-parents and beloved sister, Chris, all predeceased her.

Kathi is survived by her husband Eric, sisters Carol and Beth, brothers John, Mike and Roy, stepbrothers Don and Jack, and many aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, grand-nieces and grand-nephews, and friends from all over the world. She loved them all and will be greatly missed.

Graveside services were held on December 24, 2020 at Lewis Memorial Park.

In lieu of flowers, a memorial fund has been set up. If you wish to contribute, please do so by CLICKING HERE.

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  1. Linda Stewart says

    I first met Kathi back in 1996 at a filmmakers event in NYC. We hit it off right away and that was partly due to our Midwestern roots–Kathi’s from her childhood and mine through my mom. She was smart, friendly and down to earth. Not too long after meeting Kathi, I went on to work as a camera operator and D.P. on a couple of her and Eric’s film projects; and during that time formed a close friendship with both. I have many fond memories of Kathi both personally and professionally–still hard to believe she is gone. God bless you, Kathi.

  2. Cynthia Durham says

    I get such warm feelings when I think of Kathi – A real one-of-a-kind! She was so tenderhearted and empathetic, and absolutely honest, but never in a harsh way. One could tell her anything without fear of judgment and expect to receive kind words of wisdom and advice.

    She was brave, calmly standing up to opposition when she knew she was in the right. I always admired how forthright she was when voicing her own firmly held opinions, but never with the intention of drowning out those of others, to which she always listened with respect.

    A favorite memory for me is the year she came to my kitchen and baked me a beautiful birthday cake from her own best recipe, after specifying, of course, the one and only brand of flour that would be suitable. Later that night, we devoured it while watching Hitchcock’s Rear Window.

    Eric, I’m thinking of you now, and remembering how deeply touching it was to watch the devoted and tender way you cared for Kathi for so many years. She never wanted for a cup of tea, a TV watching companion, or a sweet kiss.

    With love for you both,

  3. Johanna says

    Kathi was a gentle, creative and beautiful soul—a perfect complement to Eric. She has left us all with beautiful memories of her. My heart goes out to you, Eric, at this time, as you journey on. Love, Johanna

  4. Sheila says

    Kathi and Eric, You were my best friends. I will dearly miss Kathi.