Stephen Duane McCarson March 6, 1950 - January 11, 2021

“They great day in the morning!” Stephen Duane McCarson went to be home with the Lord on Monday morning, January 11, 2021. In his almost 71 years on this earth he taught us so much: the importance of family and hard work, how to throw a baseball, not to pay interest, to treat others the way we want to be treated and that this life is temporary, but we’ll have eternity in heaven with Jesus. His favorite verse was 2 Corinthians 5:21, “For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.”

Born March 6, 1950, he lived his whole life in the Barker Heights community of Hendersonville, NC. He was a proud Vietnam veteran who loved his country and honored all those who serve. He and his wife of 48 years, Kathy Anderson McCarson of Chisholm, MN were pen pals while he was serving in Vietnam, they married upon his return and spent their lives in Hendersonville “being fruitful and multiplying.” He leaves behind a legacy of 7 children, plus 7 sons & daughters-in-law he loved greatly, who brought him the joy of 17 grandchildren.

His career was spent doing construction, building houses and hand crafting furniture. Duane was an expert woodworker. He also dedicated 40+ years to coaching Henderson County Little League Baseball where he led several teams to the championship. Duane said, “A pat on the back and an ‘atta boy goes a long way.”

Our Dad had a slow, southern drawl full of colloquial sayings. “I’ll be John Brown”, “They help my time.” He loved watching the corn grow in his garden, flea marketing, watching his favorite war movies and pulling for the Braves.

As a boy, Duane learned how to ride ponies from his Pawpaw George. Somehow, he was gifted at everything he did from horseback riding, training bird dogs, hunting, gardening and woodworking. He found joy in the simple things in life and shared many of those skills with his children.

But, there’s nothing he loved more than his family. He fought hard til the very end to stay with us. We will carry his love with us, always.

Duane is survived by his wife Kathy McCarson of Hendersonville, NC and his seven children and seventeen grandchildren: Kodi & Josh Staton and their children Gracie, Haley, Jaden, Ezra and Bryson; Kelly & Larry Stepp and their children Luke and Natalie, Caleb & Shelley McCarson and their children Ashley, Katelyn and Jeremiah; Stacy & Adam Calvert and their sons Sawyer & Samuel, Timothy & Carrie McCarson and their children Hudson and Bradleigh; Krystie & Jason Green and their children Reagan and Anderson; and JJ & Jennifer McCarson and their daughter Delilah. He is also survived by two sisters, Denise McCarson of Kentucky and Donna Bosack and her husband Michael of Colorado Springs and their children Cal Nix, Candi Peters, Mikey Bosack & Mathew Bosack. He had many beloved surviving relatives; uncle Carl “Pete” McCarson & family, his aunt Nancy Redmond & family and many cousins in Henderson County.

A graveside service with Military Honors will be held on Sunday, January 24, 2021 at the McCarson Family Cemetery with the Rev. Terry Kidd officiating. The cemetery is located on Mistletoe Trail of Hwy 191 in Hendersonville.

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  1. Myrtle Marshall says

    Another note from Myrtle Marshall my email address is

  2. Myrtle Marshall says

    I am so sorry about my cousin Duane passing and send my condolences to all of you. I am Myrtle, Clyde McCarson’s daughter, your grandfather Calvin’s brother. special note to Kodi- send me an email giving me your phone number and your mailing address, cause I have some family info that you might want.

  3. Cheryl Luck says

    I am saddened to hear of Duane passing. Heartfelt condolences to you Kathy and your family. 🙏🏼

  4. Ernestine (Bishop) Nagell says

    My heart felt sympathy goes out to Kathy and all the Family, during this time. Just try to remember, Duane seemed to always be confident he would join The Lord one day, and now he has.
    He was a Friend in High School, and he and Kathy were my very dear Friends, later on, when we all had Children that played together, and made us all happy.
    May God bless each of you and Duane’s many Friends, as we say “goodbye for now.”
    Now, Duane “walks with God.”

  5. Bill & Judy Case says

    We were so sorry to hear of Duane’s passing. He graduated with both of us. He will be missed. Sending our prayers and condolences to his family.

  6. Tommy Hill says

    So sorry to hear about Duane’s passing! he was always kind to me! Heaven surely got another good one! he will surely be missed!

  7. Alton Connor says

    My deepest sympathy, thoughts and prayers to Duane’s family. We grew up together in our younger years at Barker Heights Baptist Church. I have not seen Duane in years, but I am sorry to learn of his passing. May God’s grace sustain you all in this season of grief!

  8. Kirsten Hill Bunch says

    I wish I knew how many hours he spent on the baseball field coaching and how many of those kids that will never forget his patience and wisdom he shared, extending beyond baseball. “Duane’s cardiac kids” as he called them will never forget him! Prayers for the family during this time.